One Simple Family Prayer That Has Astonishing Results

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It was the best day of the year, his birthday. A shy grin stretched across his face as he was surrounded on every side with aunts, and uncles, grandparents, and cousins, siblings, and parents. He listened to the rousing rendition of the Happy Birthday song,  which ended with the sound of cheers and laughter. 

His face hurt from smiling. His anticipation rising, he heard the crowd get closer, felt the big and little hands of family members rest on his shoulders, head, and back. His eyes drifted shut, the part he had waited for all year had finally arrived.

And then one by one, the voices of his dearly loved ones, celebrated their love for him with the Creator of the Universe.  Their prayers recognized the fingerprints of the Holy Spirit at work in his life. Every person ended their prayer with a blessing.

His face bowed, his heart full, their words enveloped him, reminding him of who he was, where he came from, and where he was going.  The experience lasted only a couple of minutes, but the effects were felt to the end of his days.  

“A Blessing given in love and faith is a precious gift to a child.” Catherine Stonehouse, Listening to Children On The Spiritual Journey.

Today, I want to share with you one-simple prayer that can’t help but change the trajectory of your child’s life.

1. Family Praying: Jesus’ Model

The prayer of blessing has been around since the beginning of time. Throughout the Old Testament, we have examples of parents and elders laying hands on their children and praying blessing over them.  The most famous example is found in Mark 10:13-16, where Jesus stops everything and blesses the children.

It says this, “The people brought children to Jesus, hoping he might touch them. The disciples shooed them off. But Jesus was irate and let them know it: “Don’t push these children away. Don’t ever get between them and me. These children are at the very center of life in the kingdom. Mark this: Unless you accept God’s kingdom in the simplicity of a child, you’ll never get in.” Then, gathering the children up in his arms, he laid his hands of blessing on them.”

I love how it reads in the Message translation, “gathering the children up in his arms, he laid his hands of blessing on them.” Prayer is an active experience. Blessing prayers are not just a verbal but a physical act of anointing future generations. Positive touch, by the laying on of hands or through a hug, communicates God’s love, incarnate to that child.

Imagine the power, of your child not only hearing a verbal expression of thankfulness, love, and blessing but feeling God’s love through your physical touch and presence.

Vernie Schorr Love, in her book, Spiritual Disciplines for Children, says it this way, “The combination of words and touch leaves children with the deep sense of being loved, accepted, cared for, and valued. Blessings speak hope, life, and a sense of belonging, worth, and competence into them.  Blessings lay the groundwork for children’s inheritance to multiply with each generation.”

Your act of engaging in the practice of blessing your child can affect the spiritual lives of your children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. What a wonderful legacy to leave your family!

2.  Family Praying: Blessing Prayers

There are a couple of different ways that you can pray a blessing over your children. You can speak your own prayer over them.  You might use a combination of calling out where you see God at work in their lives and in asking for his protection and blessing over their future.

A prayer of blessing does not need to be elaborate or long. I remember Jesus’ words as he encourages us in Matthew 6:8 of how to pray, “This is your Father you are dealing with, and he knows better than you what you need. With a God like this loving you, you can pray very simply.” 

If you prefer to speak a written blessing over your child, here are some suggestions to get you started:

1. “May the peace of Jesus fill you,

The Love of Jesus surround you,

And the presence of Jesus guard you,

Now as you sleep, and all your life.”  -Angela Ashwin

2. “May God Bless you and keep you.

May God turn toward you and be gracious to you.

May God turn to you and grant you peace.

May the light of God shine over you.

May the Holy Spirit fill you.

May the blood of Jesus cover you.

May you sleep/live/go in peace. (Use the verb that suits the setting)

And may you always know just how much the Lord Jesus loves you.” Scottie May

3. “_____, (child’s name), your name means ______ , and _________. We see your tender attitude toward your friends and ours. You are able to see the needs of others and often ask us to pray with you for them. We ask God to continue to bless us and to bless you as you grow, learn, love God, and obey his ways. We love you and thank God for sending you to us.” Vernie Schorr Love

3. Family Praying: When To Pray A Blessing

Bedtime blessings are POWERFUL! I cannot tell you the number of rich conversations and positive connections with Jesus that have happened as a result of a bedtime blessing.  It can become this deep place of connection with your child. “Children mentioned their bed and their bedroom more frequently than any other as a place where they talked to God and sensed God’s presence.” Listening To God on The Spiritual Journey

There is such power in the liturgy of laying your hand on your child’s head each night and speaking words of affirmation and blessing over them.  That time right before they fall asleep, is a very thin place, where children are most aware of the movement of the Holy Spirit.  This is where there is an amazing opportunity for your child to experience deep connections with God and with you.

Here are some ideas of when to use blessing prayers:

1. Birthdays
2. New Years
3. Thanksgiving
4. Bedtime
5. Meal Times
6. Important Milestones (Baptism, Graduations, etc.)

I can’t wait to see what God will do through the intentional and simple practice of praying a blessing over your children.

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What about you? Have you practiced blessing your children? What was their experience of the prayer?    I would love to hear your story!   Leave a comment, and don’t forget to follow Most Important Work on Pinterest!